I can empathise with sone if this. One year I was alone. Estranged from my family, just out of an all-consuming relationship. An acquaintance was a host on a tv program and wanted to be a journalist. She asked me if she could do a segment on me. She also invited me to have Christmas dinner with her mother and her. I said I didn't think I wanted the be the poster girl for lonely. She never came to get me for dinner, and didn't bother to call to cancel. But things got better... gradually. I hope you can feel the warmth of so many strangers who care. May memories of your mother help you these next days... and after this. May you find ways to feel safely connected!
Thank you, I appreciate that. ♥️ Weirdly, strangers have often been more comforting than some of the people I thought might be there for me, and it has restored my faith in the idea of community. I’m glad you weren’t the poster girl for loneliness, and that things improved for you. I hope that, in time, I’ll find memories of better times more happy than upsetting.
I remember wishing you a 'lovely Christmas' as you left the BE Christmas party - social spoons were running out and it popped out before my brain engaged. Then I couldn't take it back. This season of forced jollity (is that a word?) and mandatory socialisation is the worst when you can't be part of it, for whatever reason. I'm sorry for all the reminders you're getting every day (including mine) that a happy Christmas is so far out of reach.
So now I'll say what I wish I'd said at the time: I hope you get through Christmas as intact as possible. I hope you can find some small moments of relief. I'll be thinking of you. Xx
Oh, that’s really kind and much appreciated, thank you. ❤️ (And I hadn’t held onto what you said at all — the wonders of Hooch — so please don’t worry about that!) xx
Sometimes it is overwhelming to be with lots of people but it seems more overwhelming to be alone at holiday time. So insensitive to overlook that! I hope you can feel peaceful and not too sorrowful. 💛 Life is difficult and people don't think about how it can be hard in different ways for others.
My mother died on January 6th of this year, so this was my first Christmas without her. In spring I planted her favourite flowers all around my house. They are blooming now (it’s summer here). Sometimes I lie down on the grass in my garden. Other days I wear her old clothes. None of it brings her back, I miss her so terribly. Keep breathing ok x
Oof, this resonates. I remember the first Christmas after my mother died, and it was exquisetly painful. It's been 17 years, but the memory can still bring tears to my eyes. I know words don't offer much consolation, but I am sending love and solidarity from the other side of the world. I hope you can take good care of yourself, and know that these difficult December days will pass. 💕
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so happy for you that you had a mother who loved you. I know you will be mourning her forever because her death will be your ongoing loss, but I also know that someday her memory will indeed be a blessing. My father died 22 years ago and the felt certainty that he loved me is a great source of comfort, always.
I can't even imagine having a mother who loved me. The loss of that will be devastating for quite some time, I'm sure. Sending prayers for your broken heart. Grief is the price we pay for loving totally.
Too soon, I know, but watch for signs that she is always with you across the veil.
What you said is so true. People can be so flippant about their reply. I too am grieving and feel like I am almost begging to be included. Huge hugs to you.
I can empathise with sone if this. One year I was alone. Estranged from my family, just out of an all-consuming relationship. An acquaintance was a host on a tv program and wanted to be a journalist. She asked me if she could do a segment on me. She also invited me to have Christmas dinner with her mother and her. I said I didn't think I wanted the be the poster girl for lonely. She never came to get me for dinner, and didn't bother to call to cancel. But things got better... gradually. I hope you can feel the warmth of so many strangers who care. May memories of your mother help you these next days... and after this. May you find ways to feel safely connected!
Thank you, I appreciate that. ♥️ Weirdly, strangers have often been more comforting than some of the people I thought might be there for me, and it has restored my faith in the idea of community. I’m glad you weren’t the poster girl for loneliness, and that things improved for you. I hope that, in time, I’ll find memories of better times more happy than upsetting.
(Sorry for the typos. I can't type with my thumbs.)
Oh, I didn’t notice! 😝
I remember wishing you a 'lovely Christmas' as you left the BE Christmas party - social spoons were running out and it popped out before my brain engaged. Then I couldn't take it back. This season of forced jollity (is that a word?) and mandatory socialisation is the worst when you can't be part of it, for whatever reason. I'm sorry for all the reminders you're getting every day (including mine) that a happy Christmas is so far out of reach.
So now I'll say what I wish I'd said at the time: I hope you get through Christmas as intact as possible. I hope you can find some small moments of relief. I'll be thinking of you. Xx
Oh, that’s really kind and much appreciated, thank you. ❤️ (And I hadn’t held onto what you said at all — the wonders of Hooch — so please don’t worry about that!) xx
Sometimes it is overwhelming to be with lots of people but it seems more overwhelming to be alone at holiday time. So insensitive to overlook that! I hope you can feel peaceful and not too sorrowful. 💛 Life is difficult and people don't think about how it can be hard in different ways for others.
Thank you, I appreciate that 💓
My mother died on January 6th of this year, so this was my first Christmas without her. In spring I planted her favourite flowers all around my house. They are blooming now (it’s summer here). Sometimes I lie down on the grass in my garden. Other days I wear her old clothes. None of it brings her back, I miss her so terribly. Keep breathing ok x
Thank you, I will. I’m sorry you’re going through this too, I feel like my heart is literally breaking. All we can do it keep breathing xx
Oof, this resonates. I remember the first Christmas after my mother died, and it was exquisetly painful. It's been 17 years, but the memory can still bring tears to my eyes. I know words don't offer much consolation, but I am sending love and solidarity from the other side of the world. I hope you can take good care of yourself, and know that these difficult December days will pass. 💕
Thank you! Kind words can’t change the situation, but they’re vastly better than no kind words 💓 It always helps to know that survival is possible 🙏
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Oh wow this is so moving. Right here with you mate
I’m so sorry you can relate. It’s nearly all over! 🙏
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so happy for you that you had a mother who loved you. I know you will be mourning her forever because her death will be your ongoing loss, but I also know that someday her memory will indeed be a blessing. My father died 22 years ago and the felt certainty that he loved me is a great source of comfort, always.
Oh thank you, I really appreciate that ♥️ I look forward to the loss softening and the comfort coming in eventually.
People can be so difficult. Why is it so hard to show love? First, feel love. Then, pass it on!
Exactly!
I wasn’t expecting to cry when I clicked on your post. But now I think I have found a like spirit here. I’m here if you need a listener.
Thank you 🙏
I can't even imagine having a mother who loved me. The loss of that will be devastating for quite some time, I'm sure. Sending prayers for your broken heart. Grief is the price we pay for loving totally.
Too soon, I know, but watch for signs that she is always with you across the veil.
That’s really kind, thank you. And I’m sorry you didn’t experience a loving mother, I’m sure that’s its own grief. It’s so hard being a person. ♥️
What you said is so true. People can be so flippant about their reply. I too am grieving and feel like I am almost begging to be included. Huge hugs to you.
Huge hugs back at you! It's so hard being a person, especially when grieving.
Hope you get through it OK and will be thinking of you x
Thank you very much xx